Find the right resolution for you
Setting extreme goals that are far too unrealistic to sustain can be a common pitfall to resolution breaking. Some people also set resolutions based on what other people think or what societal pressures are telling them to change. Other’s struggle because their goals are too wishy-washy and vague. You are much more likely to give yourself the best shot at success if you set a do-able yet also meaningful goal with a plan in place on how to achieve it.
There’s nothing wrong with having some fixed goals as short term motivators. These are called extrinsic goals - often with a number attached such as; lose X amount of weight, run X time in a marathon, have X amount of drink-free days. These are traditional ‘resolutions’ – often focusing on what is wrong with us, what we want to fix and are based on a fixed outcome.
However, if we fail at these, we are faced with feelings of criticism, guilt and sometimes sabotage. On the other hand, if you reach these goals then the joys can be fleeting. There becomes a pressure to step it up, what’s the next level? What’s the next number to reach?
Using these goals in the context of the bigger picture can be a helpful stepping stone, but they shouldn’t be the main focus.